Friday, March 29, 2013

Persistence Pays Newsletter- Over Comming Barriers

Persistence Pays

Over Coming Barriers
March 2013

Dear Jim,
I wanted to share an article that appeared in the Spectator on March 22nd. It shared some great advice that I think all of us can learn from. You see in all my years of working with people, so many have shared about unresolved issues that happen in their business and personal lives. In times of stress, arguments seem to rise to the surface and then it is a tug of war as to who is going to apologize first. Life is too short to hold on to anger and not love with our whole hearts. As we head into Easter, Passover and Good Friday, I thought the timing of forgiveness was perfect for this article.

The article was called Barriers to Making Up After an Argument by Jeff Herring and Maritza Parra.

Arguments, disagreements, fights. They come to all relationships, no matter how good the relationship may be.

It's been said that the best part of arguments is the making up.

True, yet there are so many things that can get in the way of making up. Let's take a look at the top three barriers to making up and what to do instead.

Make up Barrier 1 - You go first! Out of pride, you think that you must wait for the other person to apologize first before you can make up. Put two strong personalities together and this strategy can lead to lots of silence.

What to do instead: Compete to see who can be the first to apologize. Yes, really. Only for the strong of heart.

Make up Barrier 2 - The right to be right. This is a nice cousin to pride. Fighting for the right to be right can cause people to argue and say things they don't even believe, just to get to be right.

What to do instead: Realize that fighting to be right means you get to be right at the expense of the relationship. Giving up being right is the act of a strong person.

Make up Barrier 3: I don't know what to say. Some people don't know how to make up because they don't know what to say. So instead they stay stuck and wait, depending on the other person to make the first move.

What to do instead: Say: "I really don't like it when we argue. I'm sorry, let's make up. And then let's talk about how to have this not happen again."

The next time there is distance in the relationship due to any of the barriers above, grab the tips above and get ready to make up. McClatchy-Tribune

This article really spoke to me. You see I have been at the hospital almost every day since the third week of January. A dear uncle of mine fell and broke his hip and passed and two days after the funeral my mom went in the hospital as she was misdiagnosed for two months and walked on a severed alkalis tendon which required surgery and she will be in a cast for four months and they are waiting to put her in a rehab facility and we are not sure how long she will be there. When families go through stresses such as these, emotions are high and intelligence is low. Some handle stress by blowing up at others and some handle stress by staying quiet and keeping it all inside. I'm not sure where you are right now in your life; however, if there is someone you are angry at or have unsettled issues with, why not break one of those barriers today. Trust me; you will feel so much better when you do. My sister and I never fight and over the last week or so things got tense and we had not spoken for over a week. So when I read this article I picked up the phone and called her and read it to her. We both had some tears and said I'm sorry. It doesn't matter what the issues are, it can be a small thing that blows out of proportion. They key is to acknowledge the upset, say sorry and forgive.

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