Couple of years ago went to event and the speaker challenged us to start a newsletter. So the journey began. It was begin of an exercise which would open new doors and create ongoing relationships.
The months began to pass and nothing happen. No results! I began to get little frustrated, remembered the speaker said this would happen and began to think more outside the box regarding this information.
It wasn’t it was a flashy newsletter with bright colour and fancy pictures it was about the information that was important.
Had an upcoming talk that I was doing on Do you have a mentor? Which I included in the newsletter with some other upcoming events , links and services of interest. Few day later got email back from an author who I had met that had written a book on mentorship. Invited her out to come speak at the end of my talk, she showed up and wrapped up the event and even sold some of her books! I was impressed!
This gave me confidence to continue doing newsletter and have had more results happen from getting testimonials, referrals, recommendations to contact other entrepreneurs.
Giving away prizes from free ebooks to doing funny contests such ask how many times certain word appears in the newsletter.
Recently have found some free resources online that has given newsletter better interface which I like and have done a few that way.
Another reason that a realized was going to be equally important was the part of follow-up, keeping your contacts top of mind about you and what you are doing is important.
With the advent of Twitter and Facebook. Having follower is very important in the social media landscape. Having also a simple way to communicate with your contacts at least twice a month can equally be effective and provide results.
It may take some time but be persistent and Get Connected Make it Happen!
Get Connected 21st Century Learn, Speak & Socialize leads to Monetize
Monday, August 2, 2010
Follower effect can be powerful for your brand
During the past few years have stressed to entrepreneurs the importance of the follow-up with your customer , clients and potential new contacts. In an earlier article talked about the newsletter be used as an effective tool to keep people up-to-date on what you are doing on a monthly basis.
With the explosion of Facebook and Twitter it has been very interested to see how the creation of a following can create the six degree of separation but on steroids!
Motto I live by everyday is “Get Connected Make it Happen!” I share this with everyone that I know because we connect with people everyday and want to make things happen from sharing business ideas with potential prospects to increasing our network of people we know.
This can be done in many ways from attending networking events and meeting people face to face or you can go online and join site like Linkedin and start building professional contacts online and do it in a easy and effortless way.
There is no doubt Twitter and Facebook has changed the landscape for many people for everyday entrepreneurs to movie stars. Important thing to remember is what type of followers are you attracting and do you know anything about them.
Entrepreneurial friend of mine always says “what are 20 things describe your ideal prospect” by the time you get to number 13 you will uncover some interesting things!
So the next time you either are adding a friend or adding a contact ask yourself few questions regarding the value of a them following you and also the interest of them learning more about you.
Remember Get ConnectedMake It Happen” You only have one chance to make a 1st
Impression
With the explosion of Facebook and Twitter it has been very interested to see how the creation of a following can create the six degree of separation but on steroids!
Motto I live by everyday is “Get Connected Make it Happen!” I share this with everyone that I know because we connect with people everyday and want to make things happen from sharing business ideas with potential prospects to increasing our network of people we know.
This can be done in many ways from attending networking events and meeting people face to face or you can go online and join site like Linkedin and start building professional contacts online and do it in a easy and effortless way.
There is no doubt Twitter and Facebook has changed the landscape for many people for everyday entrepreneurs to movie stars. Important thing to remember is what type of followers are you attracting and do you know anything about them.
Entrepreneurial friend of mine always says “what are 20 things describe your ideal prospect” by the time you get to number 13 you will uncover some interesting things!
So the next time you either are adding a friend or adding a contact ask yourself few questions regarding the value of a them following you and also the interest of them learning more about you.
Remember Get ConnectedMake It Happen” You only have one chance to make a 1st
Impression
Wayne Gretsky Wants You To Take Shots
As you may know, I live in Canada where our national sport is ice hockey. This of course was quite evident during the Winter Olympics in Vancouver this year. If you ask any long time hockey fan who he or she would regard as the greatest hockey player ever, there's a very good chance that you will hear Wayne Gretsky as the top pick.
Wayne Gretsky once made a very interesting quote as follows.
"You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
Of course, he was referring to hockey where in order for players to score, they must always at least try to shoot the puck towards the goal (the puck is the hockey equivalent to ball for my international readers who are not familiar with this sport). If they never try shooting, there's zero chance of ever scoring.
This quote can be applied off the ice to other parts of life as well. Let's take a look at some scenarios. Let's say you always wanted to network or do business with individuals or companies from a certain type of group but never had the experience. If the lack of experience is holding you back from even making any approaches to this new group, you will probably never accomplish the goal of making new connections with them.
The end result of never making new connections with this group will be never ever having them as potential friends or customers, all because you were reluctant to make the initial moves.
You could have been reluctant to 'take the shots' because you were too shy or not feeling confident about unfamiliar territories that might have a high rate of failure. You basically wanted to avoid failure. The end result is the same regardless of the reasons though - no goals scored!
However, if you approach this knowing that sometimes you will miss the goal and accept this fact without stopping you from taking more shots, then you will eventually score. If any of the shots you take do not result in something that is favorable to you and you take them as learning situations to help you improve your future shots, you will benefit greatly.
This is the same in dating. As you can imagine if you never take chances with the people of your desires, you will always end up alone. I'm sure the married folks are nodding in agreement here. Sure, you might strike out but if you keep trying over time and learn from your misses, you will eventually have the company of that man or woman of your dreams. It might not be the original person targeted but he or she will be a good substitute!
So as Wayne Gretsky suggests, keep shooting. Sure, you might miss a lot of the shots but if you don't take any, you will certainly miss out on all opportunities in life.
Wayne Gretsky once made a very interesting quote as follows.
"You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
Of course, he was referring to hockey where in order for players to score, they must always at least try to shoot the puck towards the goal (the puck is the hockey equivalent to ball for my international readers who are not familiar with this sport). If they never try shooting, there's zero chance of ever scoring.
This quote can be applied off the ice to other parts of life as well. Let's take a look at some scenarios. Let's say you always wanted to network or do business with individuals or companies from a certain type of group but never had the experience. If the lack of experience is holding you back from even making any approaches to this new group, you will probably never accomplish the goal of making new connections with them.
The end result of never making new connections with this group will be never ever having them as potential friends or customers, all because you were reluctant to make the initial moves.
You could have been reluctant to 'take the shots' because you were too shy or not feeling confident about unfamiliar territories that might have a high rate of failure. You basically wanted to avoid failure. The end result is the same regardless of the reasons though - no goals scored!
However, if you approach this knowing that sometimes you will miss the goal and accept this fact without stopping you from taking more shots, then you will eventually score. If any of the shots you take do not result in something that is favorable to you and you take them as learning situations to help you improve your future shots, you will benefit greatly.
This is the same in dating. As you can imagine if you never take chances with the people of your desires, you will always end up alone. I'm sure the married folks are nodding in agreement here. Sure, you might strike out but if you keep trying over time and learn from your misses, you will eventually have the company of that man or woman of your dreams. It might not be the original person targeted but he or she will be a good substitute!
So as Wayne Gretsky suggests, keep shooting. Sure, you might miss a lot of the shots but if you don't take any, you will certainly miss out on all opportunities in life.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
How to Work a Room.....
It’s just before 7:00 a.m. it’s an early-riser business-and-education conference at the Metro Convention Centre. The attendees are a mix of over 800 entrepreneurs, educators employers and new graduates. Everyone has come to scout for clients, money, new contacts and jobs.
Donna Messer is one of the speakers, and she is not just there to speak, she is working the room, to meet as many potential new clients as possible. If there’s such a thing as a professional networker, it’s Messer, a business school lecturer and founder of ConnectUs, her company trains business leaders and MBA students to “network and get work”. As the conference begins, she straightens her badge, and strides into the crowd.
1 Know your audience.
Weeks before the event, Messer asked for a list of attendees.
“That way I could do a little research on people I want to meet and use that information to break the ice with them,” she explains. “Are these people entrepreneurs, educators, employers, funders or new graduates? I try to know as much as I can about the crowd before I get there.”
2 Be visible and travel light
Messer wears a tasteful red jacket with pockets. There are a huge number of navy and back suits here. She stands out in this colour, —but not in a bad way Her funky glasses perched on the top of her head, complete the picture. She pulls a small suitcase, which carries everything she will need for the day. Including plenty of business cards! Her jacket with two pockets is crucial, the right one for her business cards the left for those she collects. No fumbling. No giving out someone else’s card by mistake.
3 Circulate
She moves through the throng of people confidently, smiling. Her stride is brisk, yet casual. She knows where she is going. Her jacket is open and her body language says “I’m approachable. “Many people tend to wait for someone to approach them but their body language isn’t sending the right message.” Powerful people come to these events because they want to meet other skilled, talented people. Carry yourself accordingly. Don’t fold your arms. Look like you’re having a good time.”
4 Start fresh.
Messer’s first stop is the long breakfast buffet— not because she’s hungry. “People tend to be very accessible around the food. Talking and eating go together. It’s a great way to get started at an event,” she says, carrying her juice in her left hand so she can shake with her right.
5 Who’s who
To scope out the crowd and pick her targets from the hundreds of attendees, Messer circles the large room once, quickly scanning name tags. “Don’t read name tags while talking to people. Always maintain eye contact.” Sideways glances make you look furtive and shifty.
6 Approach VIPs first
Messer always introduces herself to other speakers. Common courtesy and a great source of additional referrals. She darts over to one of the morning’s guest speakers, a Business School professor, 15 minutes before his presentation starts. “Keynote speakers love to talk and can be great contacts, but after they give their speeches they’re always swamped.”
7 One, two or three.
The room is crowded, so Messer next looks for people who are standing alone. An individual contact is one-on-one and makes the most effective networking. Smile as you approach.” “Be careful if you approach two people, she warns, they may be in conversation, not just chatting, and they won’t welcome a third party.” Groups of three or more, are easy to integrate, stand quietly until there is a lull in the conversation, then introduce yourself with a few well chosen words.
8 Infomercial
Messer approaches a man near the podium and very briefly tells him why she’s at the conference. “Hi. I’m one of the speakers, I wrote Effective Networking Strategies, the book you received with your registration package. We train people how to build their businesses and their careers, my name is Donna Messer.” She says her name at the end so he’s more likely to remember it. Then asks the question. “ How can I help you?”
9 Handshakes
When meeting others, she’s the first to extend her hand. “It’s an old protocol, a sign that you’re eager to interact. Practice your handshake, it says a great deal about you, make sure it’s firm and dry.
10 Get to know them
While talking with strangers, Messer asks open-ended questions to determine quickly how to maximize her opportunity. “The first meeting is about them, and I try to find a common denominator between us.”
11 Card exchange
Messer asks for a business card before she offers her own. “It’s less presumptuous.” She makes note of any follow up on the back of the card. The card go into her left pocket.
12 Who do you know?
After moving through the room twice, she spots the conference moderator, someone she would really like to know. He’s alone drinking coffee, but rather than approach him on her own, she enlists a colleague who knows him to make the introduction. “An intro is like an implicit endorsement, and the next time we meet, there will be that association and that context.”
13 Win/win
The moderator mentions that he’s looking to get in touch with a professor from an American University, whom Messer happens to know. She offers to make an introduction. “Always try to be a connector, the person who brings people together,” she says. This not only makes Messer looked tapped in but may also make the moderator want to return her favour.
14 We came, we met, we will meet again.
After three hours, Messer has talked with at least two dozen new contacts. She makes her presentation, and gathers a huge list of additional contacts from her audience. She leaves the conference with plans to reconnect with everyone within the next week. “Remember, you’re not there to close deals or get a job. You’re there to get the right to follow up with a phone call, an email or a meeting. Maximize each opportunity, it makes the whole day worthwhile.”
Posted on July 5, 2010 by HAPPEN
By Donna Messer, invited speaker at Happen Inc. Canada.
Tag along as Donna Messer an expert networker, demonstrates the effective art of networking.
Messer is a keynote speaker and conference moderator. I can be reached at www.connectuscanada.com I’m hosting a networking event on July 22nd, 2010 at the Living Arts Centre, I will be sharing the details on LinkedIn as well.
Donna Messer is one of the speakers, and she is not just there to speak, she is working the room, to meet as many potential new clients as possible. If there’s such a thing as a professional networker, it’s Messer, a business school lecturer and founder of ConnectUs, her company trains business leaders and MBA students to “network and get work”. As the conference begins, she straightens her badge, and strides into the crowd.
1 Know your audience.
Weeks before the event, Messer asked for a list of attendees.
“That way I could do a little research on people I want to meet and use that information to break the ice with them,” she explains. “Are these people entrepreneurs, educators, employers, funders or new graduates? I try to know as much as I can about the crowd before I get there.”
2 Be visible and travel light
Messer wears a tasteful red jacket with pockets. There are a huge number of navy and back suits here. She stands out in this colour, —but not in a bad way Her funky glasses perched on the top of her head, complete the picture. She pulls a small suitcase, which carries everything she will need for the day. Including plenty of business cards! Her jacket with two pockets is crucial, the right one for her business cards the left for those she collects. No fumbling. No giving out someone else’s card by mistake.
3 Circulate
She moves through the throng of people confidently, smiling. Her stride is brisk, yet casual. She knows where she is going. Her jacket is open and her body language says “I’m approachable. “Many people tend to wait for someone to approach them but their body language isn’t sending the right message.” Powerful people come to these events because they want to meet other skilled, talented people. Carry yourself accordingly. Don’t fold your arms. Look like you’re having a good time.”
4 Start fresh.
Messer’s first stop is the long breakfast buffet— not because she’s hungry. “People tend to be very accessible around the food. Talking and eating go together. It’s a great way to get started at an event,” she says, carrying her juice in her left hand so she can shake with her right.
5 Who’s who
To scope out the crowd and pick her targets from the hundreds of attendees, Messer circles the large room once, quickly scanning name tags. “Don’t read name tags while talking to people. Always maintain eye contact.” Sideways glances make you look furtive and shifty.
6 Approach VIPs first
Messer always introduces herself to other speakers. Common courtesy and a great source of additional referrals. She darts over to one of the morning’s guest speakers, a Business School professor, 15 minutes before his presentation starts. “Keynote speakers love to talk and can be great contacts, but after they give their speeches they’re always swamped.”
7 One, two or three.
The room is crowded, so Messer next looks for people who are standing alone. An individual contact is one-on-one and makes the most effective networking. Smile as you approach.” “Be careful if you approach two people, she warns, they may be in conversation, not just chatting, and they won’t welcome a third party.” Groups of three or more, are easy to integrate, stand quietly until there is a lull in the conversation, then introduce yourself with a few well chosen words.
8 Infomercial
Messer approaches a man near the podium and very briefly tells him why she’s at the conference. “Hi. I’m one of the speakers, I wrote Effective Networking Strategies, the book you received with your registration package. We train people how to build their businesses and their careers, my name is Donna Messer.” She says her name at the end so he’s more likely to remember it. Then asks the question. “ How can I help you?”
9 Handshakes
When meeting others, she’s the first to extend her hand. “It’s an old protocol, a sign that you’re eager to interact. Practice your handshake, it says a great deal about you, make sure it’s firm and dry.
10 Get to know them
While talking with strangers, Messer asks open-ended questions to determine quickly how to maximize her opportunity. “The first meeting is about them, and I try to find a common denominator between us.”
11 Card exchange
Messer asks for a business card before she offers her own. “It’s less presumptuous.” She makes note of any follow up on the back of the card. The card go into her left pocket.
12 Who do you know?
After moving through the room twice, she spots the conference moderator, someone she would really like to know. He’s alone drinking coffee, but rather than approach him on her own, she enlists a colleague who knows him to make the introduction. “An intro is like an implicit endorsement, and the next time we meet, there will be that association and that context.”
13 Win/win
The moderator mentions that he’s looking to get in touch with a professor from an American University, whom Messer happens to know. She offers to make an introduction. “Always try to be a connector, the person who brings people together,” she says. This not only makes Messer looked tapped in but may also make the moderator want to return her favour.
14 We came, we met, we will meet again.
After three hours, Messer has talked with at least two dozen new contacts. She makes her presentation, and gathers a huge list of additional contacts from her audience. She leaves the conference with plans to reconnect with everyone within the next week. “Remember, you’re not there to close deals or get a job. You’re there to get the right to follow up with a phone call, an email or a meeting. Maximize each opportunity, it makes the whole day worthwhile.”
Posted on July 5, 2010 by HAPPEN
By Donna Messer, invited speaker at Happen Inc. Canada.
Tag along as Donna Messer an expert networker, demonstrates the effective art of networking.
Messer is a keynote speaker and conference moderator. I can be reached at www.connectuscanada.com I’m hosting a networking event on July 22nd, 2010 at the Living Arts Centre, I will be sharing the details on LinkedIn as well.
Is Your Life Working the Way You Want it to BE?
Is your life working?When things happen in the world that seem so far beyond our individual control, it can feel unsettling.
But don’t give up on your goals and dreams just because “the time isn’t good”... you can still make 2010 the year you uncover a whole new you for the better!
Even in tough times, you get to decide how to respond to certain conditions, opportunities, and outcomes—both good and bad.
Life will always be a series of choices and YOU get to decide on what will move you closer to your goals, or farther away from them. External forces will always be part of the equation, even during the good times when the world is thriving.
When people ask me about the single most important ingredient to success, I always share the same response: realizing what’s making you achieve success, and then realizing what is stifling your success.
Sometimes recognizing the things that are NOT working in your life can be painful, yet VERY powerful to shaping the life you want.
Don’t try to rationalize them, make excuses for them, or hide them. This is when it’s even more critical to take personal inventory and evict those excuses, rationalizations, and hidden habits that don’t serve you. These things will keep you from the life you want to be living. Let me give you some examples. Ask yourself if you relate to any of these questions:
Do you want to be active, fit, and strong? Then you have to stop making excuses about your weight, diet choices, and lack of exercise.
Do you want to be in a loving relationship based on friendship and respect? Then you have to stop rationalizing why you and your partner are not communicating well.
Do you want to embrace Monday mornings and feel excited about going to work every day? Then you have to stop hiding your true passions and go after whatever it is you really want to be doing day in and day out.
Do you want to lose the debt forever? Then you have to stop ignoring your spending habits and get real about a creating budget that will pull you out of debt and allow you to reach financial freedom.
Do you want to feel more connected to the people in your life, such as your children, friends, and colleagues? Then you have to stop complaining about your poor relationships and figure out why you don’t feel as connected as you’d like to be.
These things can be painful to look at because the truth is that you have to do something about them in order to make it work in your life.
You’ll have to say no to the second helping of dinner and the dessert to follow and go through the action steps to get into shape... You’ll have to confront your partner about the areas that need work... You’ll have to get past fears about changing your job or professional path... You’ll have to cut back on your spending and be a bit more frugal... You’ll have to take a good hard look at your personal relationships and perhaps consider your own shortfalls and weaknesses in communicating your needs and concerns.
Plain and simple, you will have to do something uncomfortable.
Successful people don't waste time in denial (or complain or make excuses for that matter). They face situations like a warrior. They look for the warning signs, they find out why things aren’t working, and they go about fixing them- even when fixing requires problem solving, hard work, risk, and a level of uncertainty.
It’s okay to identify a problem even though you haven’t a clue about how to go about solving it right away.
The first step is just recognizing the issue, and then having faith that you’ll figure it out with careful attention to it. That’s how successful people live—in constant focus on goals, on results, on problem solving, and on the actions that get them to where they want to be.
Following are three things to do constantly in pursuit of your goals and dreams, however big or small:
* Awareness: Keep your awareness on the feedback you are getting from life and decide to address the situations immediately. Don’t bottle up feedback, cast it aside, and avoid it like you would a pile of dirty laundry or a stack of unopened bills. Life tells you things every day. Do this. Don’t do that. Think about this. Try me. Forget that. We live in a world that seemingly encourages us to live on autopilot. Successful people fly manually every day and so should you. When those feedback signals come in, listen to them and use them in planning your next step.
* Commitment: Commit to finding out why things aren’t working and learn what will fix them. Once you start the process it will be much easier to continue. Nothing fruitful stems from inaction.
* Trust: Trust that making changes to the situation will ultimately bring about the best results. Sure you might go through a bit of discomfort during the change, and some unlikely or unwanted outcomes, but in the end you will triumph!
So are you ready to admit the things that just are not working out?
Make a list of the things in your life that are working against your success and ask how the situation can be improved. Commit to tackling just one of those issues and be brave!
If you need help organizing those “things” in your life, try using the following list of categories. I recommend reflecting on each of the 7 areas and ask yourself, what’s not working here in each one and then brainstorm 3 potential solutions.
1.) Financial Goals, 2) Career/Business Goals, 3.) Free Time/Family Time, 4.) Health/Appearance Goals, 5.) Relationship Goals, 6.) Personal Growth 7.) Making a Difference
Remember, by facing what is not working, you can only improve your life!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
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Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I would be honored to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
But don’t give up on your goals and dreams just because “the time isn’t good”... you can still make 2010 the year you uncover a whole new you for the better!
Even in tough times, you get to decide how to respond to certain conditions, opportunities, and outcomes—both good and bad.
Life will always be a series of choices and YOU get to decide on what will move you closer to your goals, or farther away from them. External forces will always be part of the equation, even during the good times when the world is thriving.
When people ask me about the single most important ingredient to success, I always share the same response: realizing what’s making you achieve success, and then realizing what is stifling your success.
Sometimes recognizing the things that are NOT working in your life can be painful, yet VERY powerful to shaping the life you want.
Don’t try to rationalize them, make excuses for them, or hide them. This is when it’s even more critical to take personal inventory and evict those excuses, rationalizations, and hidden habits that don’t serve you. These things will keep you from the life you want to be living. Let me give you some examples. Ask yourself if you relate to any of these questions:
Do you want to be active, fit, and strong? Then you have to stop making excuses about your weight, diet choices, and lack of exercise.
Do you want to be in a loving relationship based on friendship and respect? Then you have to stop rationalizing why you and your partner are not communicating well.
Do you want to embrace Monday mornings and feel excited about going to work every day? Then you have to stop hiding your true passions and go after whatever it is you really want to be doing day in and day out.
Do you want to lose the debt forever? Then you have to stop ignoring your spending habits and get real about a creating budget that will pull you out of debt and allow you to reach financial freedom.
Do you want to feel more connected to the people in your life, such as your children, friends, and colleagues? Then you have to stop complaining about your poor relationships and figure out why you don’t feel as connected as you’d like to be.
These things can be painful to look at because the truth is that you have to do something about them in order to make it work in your life.
You’ll have to say no to the second helping of dinner and the dessert to follow and go through the action steps to get into shape... You’ll have to confront your partner about the areas that need work... You’ll have to get past fears about changing your job or professional path... You’ll have to cut back on your spending and be a bit more frugal... You’ll have to take a good hard look at your personal relationships and perhaps consider your own shortfalls and weaknesses in communicating your needs and concerns.
Plain and simple, you will have to do something uncomfortable.
Successful people don't waste time in denial (or complain or make excuses for that matter). They face situations like a warrior. They look for the warning signs, they find out why things aren’t working, and they go about fixing them- even when fixing requires problem solving, hard work, risk, and a level of uncertainty.
It’s okay to identify a problem even though you haven’t a clue about how to go about solving it right away.
The first step is just recognizing the issue, and then having faith that you’ll figure it out with careful attention to it. That’s how successful people live—in constant focus on goals, on results, on problem solving, and on the actions that get them to where they want to be.
Following are three things to do constantly in pursuit of your goals and dreams, however big or small:
* Awareness: Keep your awareness on the feedback you are getting from life and decide to address the situations immediately. Don’t bottle up feedback, cast it aside, and avoid it like you would a pile of dirty laundry or a stack of unopened bills. Life tells you things every day. Do this. Don’t do that. Think about this. Try me. Forget that. We live in a world that seemingly encourages us to live on autopilot. Successful people fly manually every day and so should you. When those feedback signals come in, listen to them and use them in planning your next step.
* Commitment: Commit to finding out why things aren’t working and learn what will fix them. Once you start the process it will be much easier to continue. Nothing fruitful stems from inaction.
* Trust: Trust that making changes to the situation will ultimately bring about the best results. Sure you might go through a bit of discomfort during the change, and some unlikely or unwanted outcomes, but in the end you will triumph!
So are you ready to admit the things that just are not working out?
Make a list of the things in your life that are working against your success and ask how the situation can be improved. Commit to tackling just one of those issues and be brave!
If you need help organizing those “things” in your life, try using the following list of categories. I recommend reflecting on each of the 7 areas and ask yourself, what’s not working here in each one and then brainstorm 3 potential solutions.
1.) Financial Goals, 2) Career/Business Goals, 3.) Free Time/Family Time, 4.) Health/Appearance Goals, 5.) Relationship Goals, 6.) Personal Growth 7.) Making a Difference
Remember, by facing what is not working, you can only improve your life!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
* * *
Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I would be honored to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Crossman Communication feedback on Get Connected Make it Happen Newsletter!
“Get Connected, Make it Happen,” is a phrase used by speaker and business consultant Jim Pagiamtzis, whose helpful insights into entrepreneurialism appear regularly in my inbox.
To hear more about how Jim can contribute to your success, I invite you to visit him at: http://jimpagiamtzis.blogspot.com/ and
http://ca.linkedin.com/in/jimpagiamtzis
Thanks Susan!
For more on Susan writing check out link below:
Susan Crossman
Crossman Communications
http://crossmancommunicates.wordpress.com/
To hear more about how Jim can contribute to your success, I invite you to visit him at: http://jimpagiamtzis.blogspot.com/ and
http://ca.linkedin.com/in/jimpagiamtzis
Thanks Susan!
For more on Susan writing check out link below:
Susan Crossman
Crossman Communications
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Good Things Come to Those Who Ask
Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because they've asked for it!
Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.
They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking!
Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?
Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose?
Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want.
How to Ask for What You Want
There’s a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started:
1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a “yes.”
2. Assume you can. Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don’t ever assume against yourself.
3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to get... Who is authorized to make a decision about... What would have to happen for me to get...
4. Be clear and specific. In my seminars, I often ask, “Who wants more money in their life?” I’ll pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, “Is that enough for you?” “No? Well, how would I know how much you want? How would anybody know?”
You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.
5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.
Whenever we’re asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say “no.” They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It’s no reflection on you.
Just get used to the idea that there’s going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says “No”— you say “NEXT!” Why?
Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again...they might say “yes”...
…on a different day
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve learned how to close better
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation. (can you relate?)
Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.
Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking.
Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE… if you dare to ask!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
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Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I'm happy to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.
They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking!
Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?
Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose?
Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want.
How to Ask for What You Want
There’s a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started:
1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a “yes.”
2. Assume you can. Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don’t ever assume against yourself.
3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to get... Who is authorized to make a decision about... What would have to happen for me to get...
4. Be clear and specific. In my seminars, I often ask, “Who wants more money in their life?” I’ll pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, “Is that enough for you?” “No? Well, how would I know how much you want? How would anybody know?”
You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.
5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.
Whenever we’re asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say “no.” They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It’s no reflection on you.
Just get used to the idea that there’s going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says “No”— you say “NEXT!” Why?
Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again...they might say “yes”...
…on a different day
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve learned how to close better
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation. (can you relate?)
Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.
Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking.
Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE… if you dare to ask!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
* * *
Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I'm happy to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
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