“Get Connected, Make it Happen,” is a phrase used by speaker and business consultant Jim Pagiamtzis, whose helpful insights into entrepreneurialism appear regularly in my inbox.
To hear more about how Jim can contribute to your success, I invite you to visit him at: http://jimpagiamtzis.blogspot.com/ and
http://ca.linkedin.com/in/jimpagiamtzis
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Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Good Things Come to Those Who Ask
Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because they've asked for it!
Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.
They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking!
Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?
Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose?
Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want.
How to Ask for What You Want
There’s a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started:
1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a “yes.”
2. Assume you can. Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don’t ever assume against yourself.
3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to get... Who is authorized to make a decision about... What would have to happen for me to get...
4. Be clear and specific. In my seminars, I often ask, “Who wants more money in their life?” I’ll pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, “Is that enough for you?” “No? Well, how would I know how much you want? How would anybody know?”
You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.
5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.
Whenever we’re asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say “no.” They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It’s no reflection on you.
Just get used to the idea that there’s going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says “No”— you say “NEXT!” Why?
Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again...they might say “yes”...
…on a different day
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve learned how to close better
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation. (can you relate?)
Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.
Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking.
Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE… if you dare to ask!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
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Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I'm happy to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.
They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely, though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking!
Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?
Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose?
Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want.
How to Ask for What You Want
There’s a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started:
1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a “yes.”
2. Assume you can. Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don’t ever assume against yourself.
3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to get... Who is authorized to make a decision about... What would have to happen for me to get...
4. Be clear and specific. In my seminars, I often ask, “Who wants more money in their life?” I’ll pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, “Is that enough for you?” “No? Well, how would I know how much you want? How would anybody know?”
You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.
5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.
Whenever we’re asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say “no.” They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It’s no reflection on you.
Just get used to the idea that there’s going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says “No”— you say “NEXT!” Why?
Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again...they might say “yes”...
…on a different day
…when they are in a better mood
…when you have new data to present
…after you’ve proven your commitment to them
…when circumstances have changed
…when you’ve learned how to close better
…when you’ve established better rapport
…when they trust you more
…when you have paid your dues
…when the economy is better
…and so on.
Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation. (can you relate?)
Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.
Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking.
Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE… if you dare to ask!
I'll be back in two weeks with another edition of Success Strategies. Until then, see how you can discover ways to immediately implement what you learned from today's message!
© 2010 The Canfield Training Group
All Rights Reserved.
* * *
Are you "stuck" in this area?
If you need to change your behaviors, create new self-talk, and develop a plan to get what you want from life, I'm happy to help you move beyond your barriers at my powerful Breakthrough to Success program being held this August in Scottsdale.
* * *
Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
Sunday, June 6, 2010
10k run Complete
Recently complete at 10k run at the Nike Free Run at Bay and Bloor. Uphill again!
Great weather running uphill was a challenge the biggest thrill was finishing the run.
" It's about the journey not the destination"
Did a 5k run on January 3 in middle of winter with cold conditions and was extermely excited to do that run. Took pictures and and wrote artilcle about it!
Challenge to everyone out there is to do something you enjoy but challenging enought that will make you push further and farther to achieve more.
Stay tuned for more stories and accomplishments....
Great weather running uphill was a challenge the biggest thrill was finishing the run.
" It's about the journey not the destination"
Did a 5k run on January 3 in middle of winter with cold conditions and was extermely excited to do that run. Took pictures and and wrote artilcle about it!
Challenge to everyone out there is to do something you enjoy but challenging enought that will make you push further and farther to achieve more.
Stay tuned for more stories and accomplishments....
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Top 15 books from Jim Pagiamtzis Vault of Success
Below are books the have inspired and provided great lessons. Some are available only online and few through me. Email if you have any question, comments or testimonials regarding this book and how they have tought you howt improve in your business,life and success.
1. Persistence Pays by Lori Raudnask
2. Think and Grow Rich by Napolien Hill
3. 360 Degree Leader by John C. Maxwell
4. Cash flow Quadrant by Robert T. Kiyosaki
5. A Passion for Excellence by Tom Peter and Nancy Austin
6. E-Myth by Michael E. Gerber
7. How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
8. You’ve got Style Robert a. Rohm Ph.d and Julie Anne Cross
9. Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.d
10. You Inc. By Burke Hedges
11. Launching Leadership Revolution by Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady
12. How can I get myself to do what I need to do? Terry Gogna
13. The Saint, Surfer and the CEO by Robin Sharma
14. Dreaming Big by Bobb Biehl & Paul Swets
15. One Door, Two Locks by Dr.Jim Muncy
1. Persistence Pays by Lori Raudnask
2. Think and Grow Rich by Napolien Hill
3. 360 Degree Leader by John C. Maxwell
4. Cash flow Quadrant by Robert T. Kiyosaki
5. A Passion for Excellence by Tom Peter and Nancy Austin
6. E-Myth by Michael E. Gerber
7. How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
8. You’ve got Style Robert a. Rohm Ph.d and Julie Anne Cross
9. Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.d
10. You Inc. By Burke Hedges
11. Launching Leadership Revolution by Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady
12. How can I get myself to do what I need to do? Terry Gogna
13. The Saint, Surfer and the CEO by Robin Sharma
14. Dreaming Big by Bobb Biehl & Paul Swets
15. One Door, Two Locks by Dr.Jim Muncy
The Book Yourself Solid List of 20
Make a List of 20 people within your industry with whom you'd like to develop professional relationships.
These are people whom you do not yet know -- influencers within your target market who can help you get booked solid. This is your BYS List of 20.
The list never leaves your side. It sits on your desk. Lives on your computer. And, travels with you when you're on the road.
Why twenty and why must you keep it with you at all times?
Since your success is, in large part, determined by the people within your industry who are willing to refer to you or to put you in front of your ideal clients or endorse you, you need to keep these people top of mind. Keeping this list by your side will ensure that you're thinking of them and, if you do, you'll begin to notice opportunities to connect with them and get to know them.
And, twenty, because it's a large enough number to keep your focus expansive but narrow enough that you won't be overwhelmed.
Written Exercise: Identify a minimum of three, and a maximum of twenty, people you'd like to reach out to directly and personally. (These may be prospective clients, decision makers at an organization or association, or the press.) At this moment, you might not think you can fill out your List of 20, but now that you know what you need to do, you'll start to take notice of the people you should add to this list.
Here's what you do with your list:
Each day, reach out to the person at the top of the list.
After you've reached out to this person, place this person at the bottom of the list.
Now that this person has been moved to the end of the list, the person who was number 2 on the list becomes number 1 and each other person moves up one spot. This way your List of 20 always stays at twenty.
You'll reach out to each person approximately every twenty business days which is about once per month.
This direct outreach activity occurs every day. This is critical. Dedicated, disciplined and determined action is key to your direct outreach success.
Remember, the BYS List of 20 is your wish list. You're list of 20 people that could have a significant impact on your business through their referrals, introductions and advice. Do this daily and you'll be booked solid in no time flat.
Booked Solid Action Step: Reach out to the first person on your list of 20 by sending a card or email of appreciation. Or maybe congratulate them on an accomplishment. Simple.
Using the Book Yourself Solid Direct Outreach Strategy is all about making personal connections. Reach out to others from the heart, in a way that is genuine and authentic for you.
Take it one step at a time and you'll do fine.
Booked Solid U - www.bookedsolidu.com - 877-279-5220
These are people whom you do not yet know -- influencers within your target market who can help you get booked solid. This is your BYS List of 20.
The list never leaves your side. It sits on your desk. Lives on your computer. And, travels with you when you're on the road.
Why twenty and why must you keep it with you at all times?
Since your success is, in large part, determined by the people within your industry who are willing to refer to you or to put you in front of your ideal clients or endorse you, you need to keep these people top of mind. Keeping this list by your side will ensure that you're thinking of them and, if you do, you'll begin to notice opportunities to connect with them and get to know them.
And, twenty, because it's a large enough number to keep your focus expansive but narrow enough that you won't be overwhelmed.
Written Exercise: Identify a minimum of three, and a maximum of twenty, people you'd like to reach out to directly and personally. (These may be prospective clients, decision makers at an organization or association, or the press.) At this moment, you might not think you can fill out your List of 20, but now that you know what you need to do, you'll start to take notice of the people you should add to this list.
Here's what you do with your list:
Each day, reach out to the person at the top of the list.
After you've reached out to this person, place this person at the bottom of the list.
Now that this person has been moved to the end of the list, the person who was number 2 on the list becomes number 1 and each other person moves up one spot. This way your List of 20 always stays at twenty.
You'll reach out to each person approximately every twenty business days which is about once per month.
This direct outreach activity occurs every day. This is critical. Dedicated, disciplined and determined action is key to your direct outreach success.
Remember, the BYS List of 20 is your wish list. You're list of 20 people that could have a significant impact on your business through their referrals, introductions and advice. Do this daily and you'll be booked solid in no time flat.
Booked Solid Action Step: Reach out to the first person on your list of 20 by sending a card or email of appreciation. Or maybe congratulate them on an accomplishment. Simple.
Using the Book Yourself Solid Direct Outreach Strategy is all about making personal connections. Reach out to others from the heart, in a way that is genuine and authentic for you.
Take it one step at a time and you'll do fine.
Booked Solid U - www.bookedsolidu.com - 877-279-5220
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